Sadly, inattention can morph into many kinds of hurtful distraction. We cease to be paying attention to someone when we hold them judgmentally. We are not paying attention when we are doing 3 other things simultaneously. We are unable to attend to someone else lovingly when we are struggling with our own pain, fear and insecurities. We have to be full enough of ourselves to give our full attention to our beloved.
Wendy Strgar, blogger for elephantjournal.com
Link to the article, “Reigniting Romance in the Relationship.”
I overheard a conversation yesterday in which a man was describing the five levels of intimacy in relationships and how difficult it is to achieve all five. He mentioned that often women try to get all five in the same relationship, but that men often seek different types of intimacy from different relationships. This Valentine’s Day is a good time to reflect on the intimacy in your relationship (or relationships), see what they are lacking, and see if they can be fixed simply by paying attention.